My husband James, is Active Duty Navy and is a Military Police officer. We are currently stationed in Dahlgren, Virginia and he has been in for over almost 13 years this summer. We are newly weds just married Aug. 2011, rounding on our one year anniversary and have been together for over 3 years. I am veteran myself, (Active Duty Navy) and separated after 5 years and am currently a full time student working towards my Bachelors Degree in Criminal Justice. We met while we were both stationed in Japan and unfortunately we have not traveled to any other duty stations together yet.
One challenge that we are facing right now is the fact that next year we have no idea if he is going to get out or stay in. A lot of it really depends on if he gets PTS approved. PTS (Perform to Serve) is the Navy’s downsizing program and you only have so many chances to apply. Once approved you are entitled to reenlist but if denied you must apply again the next cycle and once you run out of tries you must separate at the end of your contract. It is a scary thought that he is so close to retirement but yet so far way and it feels like the rug could be pulled right out from underneath us at any moment. He is however preparing for both possibilities, and has been preparing to become a civilian Police Officer somewhere in Michigan if he is forced out and talking of Spain if we stay in. Unfortunately this same “Unknown” future is what many Active duty personnel and families are facing right now and it is rough. I don’t know how many times we have sat and talked about if he has to get out, where we are going to live? when do we start applying for jobs?…. Its just crazy.
On top of everything else we have been trying to get pregnant for a little over a year now with no success. So, recently we have been seeing a fertility doctor in Bethesda, MD and are are going to talk to him to discuss results and options next week. Depending on what procedure we end up going with we will have to come out of pocket for that procedure paying anywhere between $300 to $6,000.00. This is not a bad price considering what we would have to pay for in the civilian sector but it is still a lot for a one income family, that may have to move within the next year or so. No matter what happens we are strong and will tough it out together.
Thank you for listening to our story,
Thank you for sending in your story, Christina! I wish you and your husband all the best and I hope next year you’ll send us an update on your journey.
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